"You're Slacking!"
- Mar 13
- 3 min read
“You’re slacking.”
That familiar little voice in my head when I felt like I hadn’t done enough.
In the past, I would have been that hard on myself. Even if nothing could have been further from the truth — I would have criticized myself nonetheless.
Until recently…
I’ve been quiet in your inbox, that’s true. And I didn’t add a single line to my manuscript The Woman I Had to Find for the past eight weeks. That’s true too.
But not communicating with the “outside world” does not equal “doing nothing.” And it certainly didn’t reflect what actually happened here in the Great White North.
Let me tell you…
Together with hubby Percy and our dogs, Luke and Leia, we travelled across the North American continent in the dead of a very cold winter—from Bragg Creek, AB, to Halifax, NS. It’s a 5,500 km journey one way (Canada is a humongous country), and we made that long drive for something very special: the birth of our first grandbaby.
On February 7th, little Anja arrived. And it was such a gift to be there to welcome her into the world.
Needless to say, we stayed around for more than a few weeks. Long enough for her first massage, her first bath in the TummyTub (the awesomest baby bath from the Netherlands that I used in my baby massage classes two decades ago), and of course many, many baby cuddles.
Witnessing my own daughter instantly become such an amazing mom to this little bundle of joy was the absolute best. She moved through those first days and weeks so naturally — as if she had never done anything else but care for this sweet little girl.
But that wasn’t all that happened.
While in Nova Scotia, I entered the practical phase of my Root-Cause Therapy (RCT) practitioner certification. RCT is a trauma-informed approach that supports people in uncovering and resolving the deeper emotional roots behind patterns such as anxiety, harsh self-criticism, and other self-sabotaging behaviours — often without needing to relive or retell difficult experiences in detail. I both received and facilitated several deeply impactful healing sessions, and experiencing the work firsthand truly changed the game for me.
All the while, hubby and I — used to each having our own office space at home — were now working with laptops on our… yes, laps… in the same cozy but small living room. Together with the companionship of two 80-pound bundles of furry joy. Let me just say that our idea of perhaps spending a year driving around North America in an expedition truck is now permanently shelved. Not happening. We both need our space for our sanity.
So yes, in many ways the past eight weeks were a journey outside my comfort zone — and at the same time one of the most profound learning and healing experiences I’ve had.
And I’ve once again learned to appreciate a good meditation. Closing your eyes. Shutting the world out. Listening inward.
I especially enjoy a guided meditation — particularly when it’s facilitated by one of my Root Cause Therapy practice buddies, Caroline Jaine. She is a gentle, strong, deeply inspiring woman with the most beautiful voice, and someone I feel very lucky to know.
Because her meditations support me on my own journey, I thought they might support you too. So what better day than today to share her work with you? Some of my clients have already come to appreciate these meditations, and perhaps they might support you as well. She’s made several different meditations available on Spotify, so you can choose the one that best supports what your nervous system might be needing right now.
Here is the link:
Personally, I meditate for relaxation and grounding, and sometimes to integrate the emotional shifts that can follow a healing session. Or simply for a little “me time” with my eyes closed — just me and Caroline’s voice in my ear.
Whatever your reason for meditating, I hope you enjoy her meditations as much as I do.
And if something in this message resonates with you, or you feel curious about the kind of healing work I mentioned above, you’re always welcome to reach out.
With love and respect,
Bo 🩵
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